SEVEN TIPS SMART AND SAFE ONLINE DATING

This only applies to those trying to find true love, not those just playing around. First I do not know anything about online dating because I do not do it. I have yet to figure out how you date someone online. So, I am not talking about online dating. I prefer to call it Online Meeting, which describes what you are really on the site to doing. You are trying to meet that right person so you can date them later.

Now apparently there are those that just want an online relationship though email, that's not the type of relationship I am talking about here. So if you are looking for true love here is my seven step formula for searching and finding that person online. And if you don't know how to do this online it can be a frustrating, stressful, scary and dangerous.

Step 1: Understand there are all kinds of people online and they can tell you anything. A woman told me she was a movie producer, what she meant was she produced a YouTube Video with her kids. Solution, don't believe everything your read or hear and take everything they say like a grain of sand until you can verify.

Step 2: Remember there are many reasons people are on the site; and the person you communicate with might not be here for the same reason as you. Solution, find out early if you are both looking for the same thing and on the same sheet of music.

Step 3: Understand we all have a flavor we are looking for and just because you think you have found your flavor does not mean you are the right flavor for them; and you can't make a person be your flavor. Solution, determine what your flavor is in advance. Make a list of what you don't want and the 10 Non Negotiable things you want. Then use these two lists to weed out those that don't meet your requirements. Have them do one so you can determine if you are really the flavor they want.

Step 4: You should know a little about the person before you get to the live telephone. What do they do? Where are they from? Where did they go to school? What happen to their last partner? How many kids do they have? Do they want more children? None of this will tell you if they are honest or not but it does give you a chance to communicate and develop a sense of who they are. Once you have done this listen to your heart or intuition, it's usually right; how many times you have decided after the first email they are not the right flavor. Solution, online dating is like job interviewing. So don't be afraid to interview. Now of course you do this in a casual informal written manner at first. You simple ask what you need to know.

Step 5: When you finally speak to them don't forget you are still in the interview process. You have just shifted to the live phone. Solution, make sure you know what you want to know based on your two list.

Step 6: By the time you are ready to meet someone live you should know a lot about them and people you know should know about them; your best friends should know enough about them to help the police if you disappear. Your first meeting should always be in a public place, and you should be using your own transportation. Solution, remember this dating thing is about data gathering. You can?t make an intelligent decision on the next step with out data from the current step.

Step 7: Make sure you love your self before you start seeking the love of someone else. People that don't love themselves have a tendency to settle for the first person that meets their most pressing needs and disregard all the things they put on the two lists. Solution, go ask your best friends if you act like you love yourself when I comes to relationships, and listen to them.